Organizational complexity grows faster than the growth of organizations.
One of the drivers of this is the math of large groups: the number of relationships in a group grows much faster than the number of people in a group.*
For example, in a nuclear family of 4 people, there are 6 pairs of relationships. That number grows to 10 in a family of 5 and, if each of the 3 kids in this family has three kids, it grows to 136.**
Similarly, when a company grows from 10 people to 100, the number of pairs grows from 45 to 4,950. That number excludes all external relationships and all other configurations of people.
In this context, it’s easy to see why seemingly simple concepts like prioritization and hitting deadlines can become difficult to maintain as an organization grows. Suddenly, everyone has a list of 100 things, and everyone is doing their best to get most of them done.
While this is true, it also allows us to get into bad habits.
One of these bad habits is vagueness around who will get what will get done by when. It’s the difference between:
- (Easy, natural) We talk about things, agree (in principle) about the decision, someone says they’ll run point. Meetings end with inconsistent documentation and summary around next steps.
- (Rigorous, learned) We decide things, agree with clarity about the decision, and we always have a point person who signs up to action something and gives clarity about the deadline. All meetings have consistent written prep and consistent summaries and documentation of next steps.
In the “Rigorous, Learned” culture, for each and every decision, there is a Who, What and When. No exceptions. (The only wrinkle is that the “When” can either be the due date or the date by which a due date will be decided upon.)
The difference between “nearly clear” and “clear” here is huge: there’s no 80/20. As in:
- “We (mostly) decided this” v. “everyone knows and could repeat back what the decision was”
- “I’m pretty sure Alexis is in charge” v. “Alexis is in charge”
- “She’ll give us an update next week” v. “She’ll get it done by April 21st”
No one person can make this happen alone.
We must decide as a group to change how we show up for each other; and we must reinforce a new set of habits—particularly during meetings—that support these new behaviors.
When we build up these habits, we weave something new into our cultural fabric.
We become a group of people who keep our promises to one another, who know we can count on each other, and who know what’s most important.
This new culture will persist no matter how big we get.
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Math notes
* I wanted to describe this as an “exponential” relationship but, strictly speaking, it is quadratic. The easy way to describe this is that the number of relationships grows proportionally to the square of the number of people in the group.
** 2 grandparents, their kids (3 + 3 spouses), and their grandkids (3 x 3) makes a 17-person family. The number of pairs in a group of 17 is (17 x 16)/2 = 136.













