“What would help me the most is…”
Whether to a peer, a boss, a Board member, someone you are fundraising from or a friend, the act of clearly and specifically asking for help is transformative.
Of course it is easier to sit on the sidelines bemoaning the one thing that someone didn’t do. This gives you a person to blame and it keeps you off the hook for taking the next step.
Or, you can take the much more powerful step of (figuring out and) asking for that one thing that would really make a difference.
And then you can get on with the important work of make the changes that only you can make.