I don’t make a lot of New Year’s resolutions. I feel like once a year is too infrequent to reset my goals, and I also believe that change comes because we build the muscle of making small shifts that snowball into bigger results.
That said, with a whole year stretching before us, and with a little time away to get away from work and to reflect, we do have a nice opportunity to think about what we’d like 2016 to hold for us.
My suggestion for any resolutions you’ve made, or the ones you’re still cooking up? Go deeper.
Meaning, resolutions are often articulated as activities (“Go to the gym more”) instead of at the level of priorities. This is why we don’t keep them: because the way we’re currently behaving is perfectly aligned with our current (unstated, underexamined) priorities.
While it is possible to behave our way into new priorities, we’ll succeed more often when we take the time to dig deep into what our current priorities – and their associated beliefs and attitudes – really are.
Is it really impossible for me to find two free hours a day for sustained work on difficult problems, or am I just unwilling to take the short term pain of saying “no” to two more meetings each day?
Do I truly care about creating value in our current system, or would I rather communicate through my actions everything that’s wrong with the status quo? (output be damned)
Do I really need 15 minutes every hour to “unwind” with online nonsense, or is that just a way for me to hide?
What do I care more about, sleep or exercise?
What matters most to me, avoiding disapproval from everyone or making something that changes everything for just 10 people?
What are the moments, the people, the activities in my day that make me feel energized, connected, and happy? Who is stopping me from spending more of my time in these situations?
Here’s to a year of examined priorities, of courage, of great leaps. Here’s to a year of embracing who we are and a year of having the conviction and commitment to start becoming who we can become.
Here’s to a great 2016.
5 thoughts on “Resolutions and Priorities”
Brilliant! Spot on. Love.
Revising my 2016 Gift Goals today. Thank you Sasha!
P.S. Sara Hall is a mentor of mine (lucky me); she turned me on to your blog.
Happy New Year!
Great stuff Sasha! Definitely agree that people typically need to go a bit deeper with their resolutions. Really helps to be specific and think about why your want to make the change, and how it will affect your everyday life – now and years down the line!
If you were maybe looking for a few more ideas related to healthy living and making positive changes – I recently put out an article on the Fifty Golden Rules of Forming Healthy Habits.
It contains lots of real world examples, as well as tips and ideas from some of the industries experts (and it’s pretty long at nearly 7000 words).
Feel free to check it out – would love to hear your thoughts on it!
Have a great day!
Hi Natalie – happy new year, and I love hearing about you revising your goals! Please do give my best to Sara.
Really love this post Sasha – I just wrote my own questions after being inspired!
That means the world Wei Wei, thank you for letting me know.